Bambi Discusses “Gentle Parenting” and Slams Parents Who “Backhand” Their Children

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Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta star Bambi recently shared her thoughts on raising children discussing the term “gentle parenting” and took the opportunity to slam those who “backhand” their kids. In the Instagram video she said “So for the longest I have been trying to figure out why so many people have an issue with the term ‘gentle parenting’ and the way that people are raising their kids now. I don’t understand it. I don’t feel like gentle parenting is a direct correlation between like, your kids being disrespectful and walking all over you and all that types of stuff.”

She continued, “I feel like, you know, gentle parenting is a space where you create for your kids so that they can feel like they have a voice, they have an opinion, you can help regulate their emotions and their feelings and truly try to tap in to what they have going on. I feel like when this is done properly, our kids go out into the world, they can be respectful because they have been respected at home. They can choose the people that they feel are appropriate to be around them, the people that value them and respect them and show empathy. … Now on the flip side, the people out here who feel like it’s cool to just go ahead and backhand your kid in the mouth because they’re talking back, what is that showing your kid? We ain’t supposed to hit dogs, we ain’t supposed to hit old people … but you’re telling your kid that they really ain’t sh*t because, you know, they can just be backhanded in the mouth at any moment, with no consequence.”

Gentle parenting is described by the Cleveland Clinic as having the goal of raising “confident, independent and happy children through empathy, respect and understanding, and setting healthy boundaries. This parenting style focuses largely on age-appropriate development.” Dr. Kristyn Sommer, a mom with a PhD in child development has spoken about the potential dangers in gentle parenting stating “Social media portrays gentle parenting as this thing where if your child has any kind of tantrums or behavior, it’s an unmet need that is your fault for not meeting and that puts unrealistic pressure on mothers and fathers, especially in the pandemic.” She also said that parents don’t need to respond “correctly” all the tie yout child. Instead she says an established set of boundaries with consequences works just fine.

Then there’s her husband Scrappy who just announced on this week’s episode of Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta that he pretty much grew up in a whorehouse. He was seen on camera telling his mother,“F**k cameras and all that s**t. I just want to say this, you my mama… this is my wife. I don’t have nobody if y’all ain’t with me. I don’t have nobody!” He went on to say his mother’s behavior towards his wife should be more supportive, saying “You got to stop. Because you don’t have nobody that should make you support this even more because you know I want somebody.”

Scrappy says the environment in which he grew up in caused lots of trauma, stating “You know why I’m like how I am with her? I saw your lifestyle. I grew up in a whore house. I grew up in a trap house, so all I knew was that… I love you ’cause you held it down, and like you did what you had to do but imagine. You never had to sleep with your momma 24/7 ’cause you couldn’t go in your room,” he continued. “You never had to walk in on motherf*****s using dope. You never had to walk in on motherf*****s f*****g. The way I was raised, I had to deal with that s**t cuz. Everything that happened, I had to deal with that. And I’m still dealing with [it] ’cause ain’t nobody come and take me to get no help. I learned about that when I got older.”

Parenting isn’t easy to do by any means but it at least shows that these two want to be conscious about causing their children any trauma based on their experiences. And knowing is half the battle.

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