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Real Housewives of Orange County cast member Braunwyn Windham-Burke just made the brave move of coming out of the closet in her 40s. She did it at 41 after over 20 years of marriage and following a rather intimate moment with a fellow castmate on the show. The revelation occurred in an interview with GLAAD. She said the kiss with Tamra Judge helped bring about some clarity about her sexuality.

“I had a scene with Tamra that everyone kind of talked about,” she said in the interview. “When we were getting ready for the reunion I was talking to a producer that I trust a lot, his name was James, and he said, ‘How do you feel about this? Was it a drunken mistake or is this a part of who you are?’ And I said, ‘This is who I am.'”

“When I went to the reunion last year I kind of started baby-stepping into, ‘This is who I am. I like women.’ I was testing the waters with my friends, my cast, my family,” she continued, adding that the news was “well-received” among those closest to her.

What’s interesting about her coming out is that this on screen kissing isn’t something that’s happened on the 2 black Housewives franchises of Atlanta and Potomac. In fact, the stories of bisexuality all come from cast interactions off camera. Kandi Burruss and Porsha Williams shared a kiss off camera, Burruss admitted. What would have been interesting is if we had the chance to see it. Then there’s Ashley Darby who tried rubbing up on Robyn Dixon but got shut down on the spot. She also got into a threesome off camera in a story she told on the show. That too didn’t make the show.

“I like women. I’m gay,” Braunwyn said. “I’m a member of the LGBTQ+ community. It has taken me 42 years to say that but I am so proud of where I am right now. I’m so happy where I am. To be able to be comfortable in my own skin after so long is just so nice.”

“I’m just now starting to feel like I’m becoming the woman I’m supposed to be,” she added. “I’ve always known it, but it took me, personally, 42 years to be comfortable in my own skin to say that.”

Aside from the on screen kiss, Braunwyn says it was her sobriety putting her life into perspective that helped her make this decision. “I met someone that I was interested in pursuing a relationship with,” she said. “It became something that I didn’t want to hide anymore and I didn’t want to keep secret anymore.”

Braunwyn and her husband Sean Burke were living under separate roofs earlier this year but have reconciled since. “I love Sean. I love him dearly, he is my person, he is my family,” she said. “But I’m not attracted to men and I never have been.” It’s worth noting the two have 7 kids together. Yes, 7. That’s kind of a lot to put off on one person but then again she had two nannies despite being a stay at home mom so he could probably manage. Braunwyn on the other hand has actually never worked a normal job her entire adult life. She’s a blogger… and a successful one at that. That of course is to be expected with a wealthy athlete husband to support her endeavors.

This year has been quite the interesting one for Braunwyn. Not only did she reconcile with her husband, she came out as gay and even let her hubby know who the girlfriend is… and get this, condones it. She says she has no intentions on leaving him. “We are in unchartered territories,” she said. “Sean and I are still married, I plan on staying married. We are not sleeping in the same bedroom right now, but we are in the same house. We are raising our kids together, he’s my best friend. He knows the girl I’m dating.”

Now that is one hell of a relationship there. It’s also one of those things that from the husband’s standpoint, if you’re going to do this and we’re staying together, he probably has already established that he too is going to get his unlimited free hall passes or at least something to that extent. Braunwyn’s girlfriend even spends time at home with her husband and kids.

“It’s only as weird as you make it,” she said, adding that her children weren’t “shocked at all” when she came out to them. “I don’t know how we are making it all work right now, but we are.” He probably gets turned on at the sight. We wonder if he’s ever joined them before. Hmmm. But for those who thought this was a bit left field, she did hint at her sexuality in October. When a Bravo fan on Instagram called her husband gay, she said, “No sweetie, that’s me. He’s straight.” We probably should have paid attention then.