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Niecy Nash recently came out not long after divorcing her husband sharing with the world she had married soul singer Jessica Betts. And while we’re 5 years into same sex marriage being legal, we’re still having philosophical discussions on the topic and of course that means every person that comes out has to be a part of it.

In a recent Instagram post Nash shared getting cozy with Betts, a commenter asked “Just wondering have you noticed you have lost a lot of fans that was loyal to you before you came out?” And she responded that she was happy and none of that mattered to her. “If I lost a fan because of who I love then that wasn’t a real fan. Who/how I love has nothing to do with my art. I’m still a skilled, Emmy nominated, award-winning actress. I didn’t stop being great at my craft because of where I lay my head.”

Back in September she told People Magazine about where she is in life, saying she is “happy” and that her projects are “lit.” She said her relationship had “nothing to do with gender” and that she was “happy.” She said “It has everything to do with being an amazing person and she is the most beautiful soul I have ever met in my life. I love who I love. At one point in my life, I married twice and I love those people. And today I love this person.” She said “I’ve done everything I wanted to do on my own terms and my own way. So my choice now in a partner has nothing to do with who I’ve always been. It’s a matter of who I am in this moment.”

Part of the problem are those who like to say that people like her who insist on defining themselves by their sexuality or just need to keep it to themselves. Or they say they don’t care. Well if you don’t care, keep it moving. Why do people like Nash decide to come out? They do it because it’s been such a stigmatized thing that people have shied away from it through history. And I’ll add that she made another post talking about how healed people hear differently and to “getchu sum healin, then let’s talk.” Hurt people hurt people and the projection about gays generally comes out of some type of hurt. You can almost guarantee it’s a closet queen starting most of it. Just because you were given hell doesn’t mean you have to make sure someone else experiences the same.

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Getchu sum healin, then let’s talk ❤️

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